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Can Children Divorce Parents?

A court can grant a minor a divorce, but only in specific circumstances.
If the court determines it is in the best interests of a minor child, it can decree that the parents no longer have claim to or responsibility for the child.
Children younger than 14 cannot be granted emancipation from their parents.
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While it is unusual for children to divorce parents, the fact is that the laws in many lands do make provisions for this type of legal severance of the obligations that exist between parent and child. Known as emancipation, the process makes it possible for children to sever ties with their parents when specific circumstances are present. If the court of jurisdiction determines that it is in the best interests of the minor child for the divorce to take place, the decree is granted and the parents no longer have any claim to or responsibility for the minor child.

It is important to note that a minor divorce from parents is not the only way that an underage child may get emancipation. If the child marries with the permission of the parents, he or she no longer is their legal responsibility. In like manner, choosing to join the armed forces, again with the permission of the parents, will also end the legal responsibility of the parents and allow the minor child to become accountable for his or her actions. In both these situations, emancipation takes place with the knowledge and consent of the parents and is not considered a punitive action.

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When minors choose to divorce parents, there must be compelling reasons for the emancipation to be granted. Often, the reasons include evidence of some type of abuse or neglect on the part of the parents. Along with a demonstrated lack of responsible parental behavior, the minor child must meet several basic requirements before any court will consider an action grant emancipation. The child must be at least 14 years of age, have a reliable source of income, and be able to manage the income in a responsible manner. While it is not always necessary for the child to no longer live with the parents, courts generally prefer for the parents to consent to this stipulation.

The emancipated minor does not emerge without assuming a number of responsibilities that are normally provided by parents. The minor must continue to attend school, at least until reaching the age of 16. He or she must be able to obtain a valid work permit and assume control of making decisions about medical care. In some instances, the emancipated child may still be barred from entering into a marriage unless the parents provide their consent. Once the child reaches the age of maturity that is in effect in the jurisdiction where the emancipation is granted, he or she is no longer classified as an emancipated minor and assumes the status of adult.

Since the decision to divorce parents is extremely serious in nature, courts do not approve the petition without carefully weighing all relevant factors. It is necessary to convince the court that the minor child will benefit from the action, and that the divorce is the only logical and effective solution to any issues that currently exist in the family unit. For this reason, attorneys who choose to represent minor children who want to undertake such such actions normally gather a great deal of information before presenting the matter to any court.

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anon950171
Post 87

I’m 15 and I’m "home schooled" (my mom never has time to teach us) and I have tried to bring up going to public school many times.

Every time I've brought up going to public school, she tells me I’m stupid, or that the public school system is messed up. I have two younger brothers and two older sisters. My younger brothers are very abusive and are "at that age" would be what my parents would say. But I don’t think they’re at that age considering they’ll hit me all the time for no reason whatsoever.

My older sister has her own apartment with her boyfriend and my other older sister still lives in our house with her boyfriend and kid. Keep in mind we live in a three bedroom, one bath house. I share a room with my two brothers which is never clean unless I clean it. My dad has had so many financial problems we had to live in a car for a while and he is always yelling. My mom barely teaches us anything and spends most of the day on her laptop.

I feel like I'm only home schooled to watch her kids. It really upsets me and I’ve not cut, but have decided to mostly just try to be away from them as much as possible, even though that means sitting in a corner in my room. I never socialize and when I do, it’s just so I meet her friends’ kids. I have a few friends I can hang out with maybe once a month, but again, most of the time I sit at home.

I feel neglected. I’m barely noticed and if I try to ignore my mom, she goes berserk and freaks out that she’s "not that bad of a mom" but she is. I can’t stand it anymore. Please respond to this. Can I get any help with leaving?

ashley0119
Post 86

I'm going to be 15 in a less than three weeks and I might have a job this month and I want to get a divorce from my parents.

My mom is never on her own. She always is living with another man who is never stable. They either drink or do drugs and she’s put me in so many dangerous situations with them and my dad was abusive. I’ve moved a couple times and they caused me to be severely depressed to the point where I can’t focus and I just want to die because they make me feel so unwanted.

If I didn’t have to face them, I think that I would be able to be happier and get into a happier environment and actually become myself again. The only time I'm ever really happy is when I’m away from them for a while. My mom never is home. She’s always out at her boyfriend’s house and my parents haven’t worked for about six years. We have been living off of the government's money and I want out of it. I just want to be in a normal house hold where I don’t have to witness drugs, drunk people, and my mom having sex.

If anyone thinks I have a chance of being able to divorce my parents, please help me out here. I really need to get out of here because I’m terrified for my life and I don’t want anything to happen. Thanks a bunch for taking the time to read this and stuff.

anon931603
Post 82

The kids divorced me and said I was a bad dad. Now they want nothing to do with me be cause I guess it's tougher than they think. Well, I'll tell them to do it by themselves. Bunch of perverted kids.

anon342357
Post 78

I'm 14 and my father has failed to provide a stable environment. I have moved more than 20 times. I want to live with my mom, but she can't get a job because of my father. He ruined my mom's references. I want to stay until I go to college, but my dad is close to making us move again. He hasn't lived with us for more than a year and a half. My mom doesn't have enough money to get a divorce and my father is always complaining how he has to work. What do I do?

anon342001
Post 77

I’m 15 and my dad won't let me move in with my mom. I stood up to him the other night and he threatened me. I feel unsafe. I need to live with my mom. His house is unstable. What do I do? Please help me. This could be life or death for me come August. I want to be emancipated from him. That way he can't threaten me. Please help me.

anon341716
Post 76

I'm 17 and I have been physically and mentally abused all my life. My mom and my stepdad are always fighting. To be honest, I don't even know why she is still with him. She always says it's my fault they fight and argue. Ever since I was 4, I have been physically or mentally abused. I have never said anything to anyone because I didn't think people would believe me and would say I was looking for attention.

My parents fight. On occasion, they have smashed up the house and have even hit me. My neighbours have even called the police on them for fighting.

I don't know what to do anymore. They constantly bicker and I'm just over it all. I cry myself to sleep because they blame it all on me. I'm the reason everything ever goes bad. I'm not a bad kid. I don't smoke, I don't drink and I rarely go out with my friends because my mom doesn't let me. She always says, "No! You are always gallivanting around." She is a hypocrite because she is the one who gallivants around. Sometimes, when my stepdad is away for work, my mom just goes out and doesn't come back for days. I just want out of this so called family!

Can someone help me please? Is there anyone I could see or talk to?

anon319024
Post 75

From a family lawyer in Texas:

Hey, teens: a judge is a lot more likely to grant another adult custody of you -- maybe even primary custody -- than emancipation. Emancipation might be granted in a situation where the teen has a job or a lot of family money (like a trust fund) and so can definitely financially support himself/herself. It's hard to show, though, since most teens don't have money or a way to support themselves. But if you spend all your time at grandma's or your aunt's or a friend's parent's house, and that adult is willing to take on some legal rights and duties for you, they could try to get custody and you could help.

It's not free; someone will probably need to hire a lawyer or get a lawyer to help pro bono to get it done. If your parents do not both sign/agree (or else default, meaning do nothing after legally served) or your parents fight it, then you/adult may need to prove that staying with your parents would be harmful. Some lawyers will not consult with teens. The adult you want to have custody over you may need to try to hire the lawyer. You could try your local Legal Aid office, or try looking up child welfare and your city or state.

If the abuse from your parents is bad enough, and there is no adult to help (or if there is an adult to help but no money), you may want to call a Child Protective Services (or whatever is your state's equivalent) and put in a referral on yourself. But be careful what you wish for, because you might get it.

CPS may not like the adult you want to stay with if they have criminal history or CPS history. CPS may say your parents are fine. They could put you in a foster home or group home. It's a drastic solution, so make sure circumstances are truly bad before you call in a referral.

anon317158
Post 74

I am 15, and I feel unloved and I barely go to school anymore because it's just hard. My parents are always leaving me to be the third choice. I'm always getting yelled at, and watching my mom down pills and my father and her drink all the time. They are always hitting each other. There was one time when he put his hands on me.

I've been depressed where I am and it seems like no one wants me here, yet they don't ever let me hang out with friends and they keep me trapped in the house. If I ask to go out, I get screamed at. I get called trash. I have a job and I make about $100 on the weekends and I've had it for seven months.

I'm a good student in school but yet I don't go so I get bad grades, but I want to divorce my parents but I doubt they'd let me. I have a boyfriend whose mom would love to take me in and they have a good income and live very well. Would this be possible?

anon301642
Post 72

I am 16, and I am wanting to divorce my Mom. My father isn't in the picture. I am home schooled, and I don't have a job. But I am trying. she grounds me for the stupidest reasons. My older brother is 18. He is in DYS in Faulkner County and knows the history.

The cops showed up at our house weekly because she always called the cops for the littlest thing. That was her only defense. She thinks she is too good for us. She swears we are her world, but she puts me down twenty four/seven, over the craziest things.

I am wanting to go live with my Grandpa because he is the closest father figure I have in my life. It's either get divorced from her and live with him, or move to a different state to live with my uncle on my dad's side. She always tells me my father's side of the family would give me more support, anyway.

But I'm not wanting to move to Alabama. I am really wanting to just stay where I am and stay with a family member.

anon296339
Post 71

I'm 14 about to turn 15. Can I get an emancipation from my divorced parents? My dad is a severe alcoholic. He drinks and drives and never has time for me and constantly lies so I can't live with him.

I want to divorce my mom as well. She physically abuses me and calls me a no-life and scum and makes me want to end it all. My brother is 18 and he has been my only true friend. I love him way more than my parents. Am I allowed to go live with him even if my mom doesn't allow it?

watthews
Post 70

I am Brittany. I am 16, turning 17 in November and I was wondering if I can get a divorce from my parents and live with my boyfriend at his parents' house. My parents are alcoholics and they do drugs. They either smoke weed or spice. I don't know. I have three brothers, two younger than me and they abuse me all the time and leave marks on me and my parents basically do nothing about it.

I am tired of my alcoholic/druggie parents and my brothers who abuse me. I need help please.

anon285858
Post 68

I was molested when I was younger, by my older brother. He went to a juvenile jail for a couple of years. He came back and went back to another one. He used to beat me up pretty bad and that is the only thing my mother knew about.

I got an older boyfriend about a year ago, and he is my best friend. I tell him everything because he understand and helps me. Well, my brother came back and I wasn't being molested, but he was harassing me and I could not take it. I pretended it never happened and the I couldn't anymore I cried myself to sleep every night and I had to tell my boyfriend. I told him and he wanted to beat him up. He told me tell my mom. I told my mom and she made ne leave, not him. She was so hurtful, called me a liar and whore. My mother was molested, so I honestly thought she'd understand.

I went to live with my dad, who didn't even have a bathroom or water supply in his ghetto apartment. My brother came there and harassed me. I felt hurt abandoned and I would have felt alone if my boyfriend had not been there for me. My dad even called me a liar. I wish I had called the cops.

My mother said, "If it was true why didn't you say anything before?" I even told her because I felt dirty and she was never around. I was scared. I got sick because my dad wouldn't buy me medicine in the winter and I had to move right next to my brother's room. I've been fighting with her verbally because I hate her for not protecting me then and now. My brother has even punched me. I didn't fight back because I thought she'd kick him out and he'd be out of my life. Well, that's not happening She told her aunt and they agreed not to say anything.

I've tried to kill myself in the past, and I was sent to Shepard Pratt. I grew up fast, I'd say. She isn't here for me now either. I was getting registered in a advancement school so I could work up to my right grade, and they said 'most of the kids go here because of things happening at home' and my mom got uncomfortable. She doe not like people knowing anything about our life. She pretends things aren't there and flips crap when things are brought up.

Anyway, long story short, my mom sold cocaine to my old babysitter's mother and our house got raided and she got caught, so she hates our friend. She doesn't buy anything for me and doesn't want to be near me. She got jealous because my friend/old baby sitter bought me shirts and make up, and she started griping. I said, “Why are you acting like this? Why are you mad? Why are you jealous?” and we started fighting. She punched me in the side of my face, she scratched my breast, like actually ripped skin, bit my thumb, pulled out my hair, and bruised my arm. She left my stepdad, who's always defended me against her for a man who has a little bit of money.

I can't stand her, seriously. I'm living with a friend but I called the cops. I'm 14 and I want my own rights. I don't know what to do.

anon282408
Post 67

I'm 14, nearly 15. I can't drive yet, nor do I have a job. By next summer I should be able to have a job.

My mom is an alcoholic, a recovering one, I guess. I don't forgive her at all. She mentally and physically abused me on one occasion. I haven't seen her in four months, but my siblings visit her at the Social Services place three times a week. Everyone in my family forgives her; my father included. So it's five against one, and the only reason my mother hasn't moved back in is because we have an OFP against her for another 11 months. I told my dad that if she moves back in I'd run away.

I love my dad but he's not listening to anything I have to say. I know hate is a strong word, but I hate my mom. I actually do. If my mom moves back in I want to divorce my parents.

Heather014
Post 66

I can't stand it anymore! I'm 14 and my mom has left me 3 times. And all she cares about is her boyfriend. And he's young enough to be my brother. And she can't make up her mind with the low life pieces of work she dates. And I have many places to stay. But I can't be with her anymore! I can't stand her or her boyfriends anymore. I need help.

anon280020
Post 65

What about adult children divorcing their parents? --G.

krisann1003
Post 64

I have a complicated situation. I've taken my stepdaughter in and I love her as my own.

At the time, her dad and I were still living in the same house but that's not the current situation.

He has recently moved out and is in the middle of a custody battle with his ex wife and my stepdaughter doesn't want to live with either parent.

There are valid reasons -- at least in my opinion -- why I feel her future could be damaged by returning to live with either of her parents. It's a long story.

The ball is really legally out of my court. She can be removed at any time, but it would crush her emotionally.

Her guardian at lit am won't speak with me or her, so would emancipation be a good possibility, if this mess can't work itself out? Where do I start or where does she start?

anon252264
Post 63

Well this isn't for me. It's for my girlfriend. She's 14 and she gets mentally abused and her parents put her down 24/7. They blackmail her if she wants to see me. She hates living there and she hates her parents.

Now all I want to know is can she leave home without her parents or police being able to do anything? Can she live somewhere where she feels safe?

If the police don't think it's a good idea of her living where she feels safe, can they do anything?

amypollick
Post 62

@John from India: Can who sue the girl? The parents? A jilted fiancee? I am not conversant with Indian law, but I'm going to make the assumption that, if a girl is considered an adult in the eyes of the law, she can get married without consulting anyone. That's part of the advantage of being an adult.

If, however, the girl is underage, the marriage may not be recognized in the eyes of the law. But this is a matter for an attorney, if that's the case.

anon245819
Post 61

If a girl got married without the consent of her parents, can we sue them or what is the next course of action.? --John, India

beccagreen14
Post 59

I'm 15 years old and have been getting verbally and mentally abused by my parents for two years. My mom is forcing me to do indoor track which my body can't handle, mentally or physically. She screams at me all the time for no reason and blames me for everything. She has called me some pretty bad names. We have yelling matches almost every night and either I get slapped or something of mine taken away or both.

My dad will agree with me in private but he always takes my mom side. He has threatened to hurt me and has hit me before. I have a younger sister who they treat like an angel even though she is very abusive towards me. They have put so, so, so much stress on me I just can't take it anymore! They have caused me to cut and think about suicide just to stop it all.

I am a high honors student with a horrible home life. My mom thinks I am always overly dramatic. Even though I don't have a job yet, if I get a permit when I turn 15 is it possible to be emancipated or divorce my parents?

anon230858
Post 57

We live in India. I have a 15 year old sister and she has been mentally abused all her life and now it has become physical by my father and mother just because, to keep contacting us. They broke relations with us. Me and my husband want to take her out of her parents' house and we want to know if we can take full custody of her.

She wants to live with us because it became beyond her tolerance, but my mom and dad say no way. Can you please help us to find out how to take custody?

anon230138
Post 56

My Dad is mad. He drove my mother out of the house by almost killing her (which he should have gone to prison for). He neglects me, my brother and my sister constantly, he can't cook, and always complains about how terrible his life is and how he has to do twice as much work now that my mother is gone.

He's threatened us, scared us, and is on the edge of insanity. I can't live with him but I fear that my brother and sister will end up with one of my crooked family members. I want them to live with me but I'm only almost 18, and even then I don't know if it's legal. I want to give the best to my brother and sister because I truly have had a terrible life and only now have I really managed to come to my senses and be a woman. God help me.

anon210087
Post 55

Why would you want to divorce your mother? She carried you for nine months. Now, on the other hand, there are plenty of dads that should be divorced.

anon200836
Post 54

I was divorced a year ago and fought for custody of my kids the whole time. The kids resent me and feel bad for their dad because I'm the one who "broke up the family," as they say. It ended up that he got residential custody with us both having joint custody and I pay child support.

I don't get to see my kids and their dad buys them all kinds of stuff and lets them stay at friends' houses, etc. Example: since school has been out my son has lived at a friend's house 90 percent of the time and my daughter is at a friend's house at least every other day. They cuss me out, etc. I have hired another lawyer to get custody of them or even enforce my parenting time so that I can see my kids, but my kids say that they will run away before they ever come to live with me.

I'm fighting for my kids because I love, miss, and want them. But they don't want me. I don't know what else to do! I'm lost without my kids. Any suggestions?

anon190923
Post 53

I can't take it! I'm 16 years old and my mom doesn’t know what she wants in her life! One minute she's telling me we are moving to Brazil and then the next she is telling me we are staying here. Now she's been on a rampage that she is moving to Brazil, you know, finding a job, houses and everything in Brazil. She already has a job in Brazil and a house and our whole family lives in Brazil.

I need to be emancipated because I can't live in Brazil. I hardly know how to speak Portuguese well. I can't even write in Portuguese!

I need a future, and obviously living in Brazil will mess up the life that I made for myself educationally in America. Can I be emancipated on these grounds?

anon188881
Post 52

i have the laziest mother ever but when it comes to helping her friends she will do anything. however, every day she leaves me, a 16 year old, with my 5 year old younger brother to care for him and if i ever say a word back to her she will attack me and i can't fight back. she is my mom and dad's not around to help.

anon173206
Post 51

You all should just forgive your parents and make up with them, and the parents should not put their hands on their kids. you had them and now you have to take care of them. If you had put your hands on them, then the kids should call 911 on you. Nobody needs to put their hands on anybody at all.

Some of you should just make up with your kids, give them a kiss and tell them you are sorry and you will never do it again.

I'm only 20 years old and I had my first kid at 14 because I was not doing what i needed to do at home and at school. I thought that I could make it on my own but it is hard out in the real world.

Even running away from home is not going to get you anywhere in life but in jail, raped or dead, so tell your parents you are sorry. you do not want to be with a baby, no money and no place to live.

anon172000
Post 50

I'm 17 years old and will be 18 in november. I can't take living in my house anymore. my parents fight every other day and all of their fights get really physical. they hit each other and throw things everywhere. There are four kids in the house and i think it is not a safe place for kids because they are so violent with each other.

my mom went to jail for hitting my dad in the face with a tray and she went to jail and in my dad's past, he has a record of domestic violence, they both went to jail and had records for the same thing.

I think its not a safe place for me, because when i get involved with them to help my mom, things will get physical, like i will push my dad or my dad will push me and i can't take it any more. i really need help on this. my life is so hard right now. i just need to find a way out of this situation, please!

anon166459
Post 49

I have a 14 year old granddaughter and she has been mentally abused all her life and now it has become physical. Social services has taken her out of her mom's house and my husband and I have temporary custody of her and we want to know if we can take full custody of her.

She wants to live with us or her dad (our son) but her mom says no way. can you please help us to find out how to take custody.

anon165061
Post 48

I'm 14 years old and will be 15 soon. I can't take living in my house anymore. I know hate is a strong word, but i really dislike my little sister. She has been a brat from day one. I get yelled at for every little thing i do if it upsets the little weirdo. I have never gotten along with her and don't plan to.

It's the same case with my big sister, too, basically. She thinks she's brilliant at everything, thinks she's better than everyone else and actually throws hard objects at me.

The reason I'm writing this is because five seconds ago she launched something at me and I've had enough! My dad is okay, probably my favourite in the house but not by much. the problem with him is he agrees with everything my mum says even when he knows she is in the wrong, which she usually is.

My mum is the worst. i won't say i hate her but i really disagree with her existence. she yells at me for no reason and calls me stupid and a whole other bunch of names which I'm not, and my birthday is coming up but she has now banned me from leaving the house because i stayed at my friends the other night and when i got home i didn't want to talk to her. But i never want to talk to her.

i haven't told my family i love them and meant it in at least two years, and i don't plan to because i know they hate me. so my question is can i divorce my family?

VIexP
Post 46

My name is Saide. I need help. my brother and I need out of our family. my dad is abusive and my mom is hardly home nor is my dad! Should I divorce them or get help from a counselor?

anon152639
Post 44

My son has driven me nutty for the past five years. Now that he is 18 and gets his SS check from his deceased father, he thinks that he is the head of household.

He has behavior problems. I never remarried because of him. Then it got to the point when I did meet a nice man who liked me for me, he would interfere. He calls he a slut and a whore. He is real religious. He says I lie and do all these awful things. How can I when he keeps my vehicle preventing me from leaving my own home. He wants to know where I am going and when I'll be back. I shouldn't have to beg to use my vehicle. He has used all my savings.

The last straw was today. Early this morning, I gave him some candy for Valentines' Day and asked him politely to get up and go take his dirty clothes to the washer and pick up the sticks in the yard. I had to go to town (13 miles) and when I came back the sticks were not picked up. I am not able to pick up the sticks. I have RA. When I asked him about it, he got mad and started this crap about how he was leaving.

I am tired of his attitude toward me and disappointed in his behavior (He wears suits to school and takes his Bible.) I don't worry about his belief and the Bible, but how he conducts himself at home will eventually be shown in public.

Can I divorce him? I love my child, but he keeps threatening to kill me if he don't leave. He is still in High School and can't find a job. He is real good about losing important things. He lost his ACT Up to take his test last Saturday ($75.00 down the drain.)and today he lost the envelop that had his SS money in it. How long do you think he can live on his own and how many people will put up with him?

anon150168
Post 43

I have a 16 year old daughter who will be 17 in three months. For the past six years she has yelled, screamed and cursed at me, threatened me, made scenes in front of others in both public and private settings, and has made attempts to physically assault me.

I've sat on her to restrain her from assaulting me, I've called the police, I've paid for counseling, I've taken away privileges, I've grounded her, I've sent her to live with her dad and taken her back in, and when her older sister died and she kept cursing me I took away all but her necessities including her bedroom door for eight months. I'm weary to the core. She would try the patience of God. How can I divorce my child? I desperately need a break and some peace.

anon148962
Post 42

ok i really would like someone to answer this! my name is francisco. i don't get along with my mom. she isn't responsible over me. she leaves the house too much, leaves me alone at home all day and when she comes home she starts being mean telling me to do this and that, basically being a witch.

It's not that i hate her. Its' just that i don't get along with her and i don't wanna be with her anymore, so if someone could please answer this: is it possible to leave my mom without her permission at age 16 and me being able to live with whoever i want?

deboraB
Post 41

Ok, I am 15 years old and I have double citizenship in Brazil and America. I used to live with my mom in Florida and my mom is married to a guy who doesn't like me and I don't like him for many reasons.

Anyway, me and my mom and step dad had a huge fight at the end of november 2010 and I told a police officer in my school because I asked to get out of the house but I could have only done that if my mom agreed to it and she didn't.

Then, two weeks after the talk with the officer, she sends me to Brazil with no documents -- only my non-valid Brazilian passport and no American passport. When I got to Brazil she tells me I am not going back and now I can't take my brazilian passport because she's the only one who can sign it and I don't have my American passport. She kept it and she said she was going to cancel it. Can she do that?

So I want a divorce as soon as possible because my situation gets worse each day. All of my aunties are trying their best for a solution but can't seem to find one, I need this divorce as soon as possible. One of my aunties said she will take full responsibility over me. She wants to be my guardian.

And if you need me to explain the story please tell me and I will explain the story. Thank you very much. I'll be waiting. I'm only registered (birth certificate) on my Mom's name. And right now I'm living with my sister in Brazil who has no financial conditions to be with me.

anon147550
Post 40

I am a 14 year old girl going on 15 in a few months. my mother is engaged to a man i do not like. the whole family doesn't like him. my mom has taken his side over everybody's lately.

she's disconnected me from my family which is putting me in deep depression. she wishes to move far away and take me with her. i wish to live with my grandmother. how do i divorce my mom successfully without losing. if i lose she will take me away from everyone forever. i see this as mental abuse, which is bringing me into a deep depression. i have also had suicidal thoughts just to get everybody to stop fighting.

anon141020
Post 38

i am 36, and have three children (11, 10, 7). I am settling in my civil matter because i do not have enough money to proceed to trial.

i fled with the children two years ago, from the fathers involvement in the drug industry. over the last two years and spending everything i could, i have "will say" statements from rcmp officers, and other individuals who state that the father is unsafe, and others who were victims of financial abuse, and blatantly obvious mortgage fraud and financial abuse.

my daughters made disclosures of incest, but they were disbelieved by the crown. The father is very powerful and influential, and comes from a powerful political family as well. The father is also a police informant, which aids in avoiding any criminal prosecution. how can i help my children divorce their dad?

anon137837
Post 37

I'm 14 years old. My mom and dad divorced when i was very young, my dad had dated, engaged, and married some very awful people since then and he is now currently married to a controlling and somewhat evil person.

My dad and i used to be very close and we had a great relationship. but now he never has any time for me anymore, and both he and his new wife always tell me what I'm doing wrong and how disappointing i am. I cannot live with my mom because of drugs and alcohol issues, but i would love to live with my grandma and have her as my legal guardian and divorce my dad. But how do i do that?

anon136723
Post 36

I'm 15 years old. my dad has a new gf and she is 22. I don't know how to feel about this. My dad is never home. he's always working and tries to tell me when to be home so I can pick up the house and stuff. I don't mind cleaning up but when I stay somewhere on Sunday nights and I don't have a ride he freaks out.

He calls me names and I have evidence it's not physical abuse but mental abuse and it makes me cry daily. It's not a good feeling being around someone who makes you feel worthless. Feeling like your parents would be happier without you doesn't make anything better.

I want to be emancipated but he won't give me permission to do that. what do I do?

anon130511
Post 35

Those of you who are underage need to call Child Protective Services or the equivalent in your jurisdiction. If you don't know the correct agency, call the police and they will help you.

If you are 18, or in some locations, 17 or even 16, you can move out and support yourself, but generally if you are under 18 you either need Child Protective services to intervene or a lawyer to help you with emancipation. Many locations have low-cost or free legal services. In the US you can call the United Way for a referral to such services, or call your local battered women's shelter for a referral.

Many of you kids are being emotionally and physically abused, so don't be afraid to ask for help. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Don't stop asking for help from teachers, neighbors, and other adults and city, county, or public services until you find someone to help you.

anon128706
Post 34

I'm 16 and i want to divorce my parents. All I see when i think about my parents is yelling and constant fighting. I have average grades but my parents still tell me it isn't good enough and despite me taking two AP classes they continue to add chores. It causes me to not be able to keep up with class work, which they then yell at me for.

I have had a minimum wage job for a year and a half so i have a decent way of providing for myself except now my parents are threatening to quit my job for me.

The stress from all of this has caused me to become a different person and I think my friends are noticing. I am always angry and I have tried every calming technique i know but the only one thing that makes it better is smoking.

I don't want to smoke but I am afraid I will lose all of my friends if I continue to be like this.

I want emancipation but I don't think I can get it without parental consent which they definitely wouldn't do.

anon123888
Post 33

I think I want to emancipate my mom. I am only 13 but when I am 14 I would. I don't have a consistent income but I do make money when I work as a model/actress. My mom makes life a lot harder.

I cry daily, and am stressed out. I go to online school and she makes comments of me being on the computer too much. It's a struggle to ask to go with my friends or even go outside.

She calls me names and a few times in anger grabbed me by my hair and dragged me. She calls me names like "b*" and "spoiled rotten piece of ****." I have a brother that she treats like an angel. He gets the baby voice and the good jobs. I do great in school and I'm an "A" student.

If I do the slightest thing, like not pick up my shoes from the door, she'll explode and start being mad. She makes me feel terrible to leave with my friends and doesn't let me go anywhere without someone.

My brother, who lives with my dad in Florida, I live in New York for work, he kicks and hits me and also calls me names. I would want to emancipate if it gets any worse or continues. I love my mom but it's hard to live crying daily and being called names.

anon122638
Post 32

Hope i could get this right now. My parents expect so much more of my sister's when it comes to school, but my dad expects me to do so much stuff around the house i never have time for homework. Some nights i will be up until 1 or 2 in the morning just to make sure my homework is done. This has gone on for three or four years. We just moved and that put me under more stress. I am in a new high school with no friends. My parents are racist toward all people of the black race. This greatly intensifies my anger towards them (my girlfriend is black).

I don't have a source of income because no one will hire at 15 here. I've tricked grocery stores, landscaping jobs, gas stations, and other outlet stores. I talked to my friend's mom (they live in Canada). She said that they would take me in and call me one of their kids, without hesitation.

That is one thing i've never heard my dad call me. He's never called me his son, and my mom hasn't either. They always were fighting when i was young. That still haunts me. My dad has abused me before. He got mad one day because i wouldn't take a shower (i was finishing algebra homework). He got so mad he ripped a hole in my right shoulder sleeve and pushed his fingers deep into my pressure point. I cried and screamed but my mom and sisters were on a Girl Scout trip at Worlds Of Fun. He then put his hands around my neck and the next thing i remember was lying on the ground crying, and it even hurt to cry. The floor was cement because it has been a garage. It has carpet but that didn't help at all.

I went to school and wanted to just tell the office everything. He has told me if he found out about me telling anyone he wouldn't hesitate to do it again.

I really just want out. I'm sleep deprived, under tons of stress, and have horrible memories of my past.

junelove
Post 31

I'm 16 and ill turn 17 in June and I want to divorce my parents. My mom had a drinking problem when I was younger and she currently takes pills for no reason -- just to get high. I have a lot of anger towards my parents.

My mom be cause of the things she has done and she never has time for me, but she does for anyone or anything else, and my dad because, well for one, he is beyond strict and he's more worried about my brother. Also because, well, he used to hit my mom and we had a restraining order against him.

Growing up, all I knew was fighting and my parents were never home. this has honestly messed me up mentally. I have the hardest time trusting people and as soon as I get mad I want to punch something. They are slowly making me lose my mind.

I'm only 16 and I have the stress of a 40 year old. the pain in my chest never goes away. My parents are also always belittling me, calling me over-weight and my face is so bad.

My boyfriend's mother just died and he is only 17. I became so responsible for that because I cook for them and clean and do their clothes so I can take care of myself. The only thing I need now is a job, which I have been looking for.

Would I be able to get away from my parents and move in with my boyfriend's family? I feel more at home there then I do at my own home.

anon122172
Post 30

My grandmother (age 90) and I used to be very close through childhood to young adulthood. I could tell her anything and she would listen. When I was 23, I brought home my fiancé to meet my parents. From that moment on, the relationship between my Grandmother and I changed for the worse.

We had planned on a January wedding a year away. Then we found out we were going to be parents. We bumped up the wedding to May. Grandma came to me with $2,000 in her fist, told us she didn’t want to see her in a wedding with her stomach sticking out “get married this January or no money.” This was on New Years Day. Keep in mind my Grandmother married my Grandfather on Groundhog Day in 1939 and my mother was born in September that same year.

She even went up to my wife before we were married and told her; “Just to let you know, there will always be a place in his heart for me that you will never have.” Anyway, I became her biggest disappointment after that. For 22 years now I’ve heard the following; “You’ll never be rich,” “You’re costing this family money,” “You’re not earning an honest wage,” “You spoil your kids rotten,” “Your kids will never amount to anything,” “your kids are ungrateful,” “I’m telling your mother how you turned out, she’ll be so disappointed in you,” “There’s not enough money in the world to make me happy. I want it all.“

Mom suffers from Alzheimer’s. She waves her money in our faces and uses it to try to control us. Whenever she has a “business proposition, it comes at the cost of self worth, dignity, respect. Always on her terms; “I’ll give you this money, but you need to get a better job, start making better money." She has paid me two compliments in the last 22 years. The day after Christmas in ‘97 her second husband passed away in my house. I went back to New Mexico with her to help with the arrangements. She said she was proud of me for helping her out.

The second time came just last month when I hosted a party for my parents' 50th anniversary. She told me she was proud of what I did for them.

So, this last month, there was a message on the machine from her to my 21 year old son; “Call me, I have a business proposition for you.” I told my son that no good can come out for you if you accept and business proposition from her, but call her, don’t call her, it’s up to you.

Both my kids know how frustrated I am with my Grandmother. They both are also. My son declined calling her.

I called on his behalf. Her business proposition involved paying for his education at a university of her choice and a degree of her choice. I said, “No way.” We blew up at each other, I told her, “sorry you can’t deal with the fact that I accept the responsibilities of my own actions.” I told her to leave us alone, not to call us at all. She insinuated I’m an unfit father for raising two misguided kids that have no hope.

She wants to write me out of the will. There are bonds in excess of $50,000 in my name. She wants to take my name off these bonds, split them and put my kids name on them. They’re 18 and 21.

I cannot be bought, my kids won’t be bought. She has crossed a line with me and can not go back. My daughter is ready to tell her off.

She obviously loves money more than family. She’s going to do whatever she wants to do with her money, it’s her money. I won’t allow her to use money to control me or my kids. She has exhausted all respect for her out of me.

Can I sue her for divorce and the full face value of the bonds? Or just be the bigger person and let her do what she wants to do and keep declining any business propositions from her?

anon122102
Post 29

I'm 13, almost 14. My mother has two other children, 16, and 10.

She treats me like complete crap, grounds me for the dumbest crap. She gets drunk and will hit me sometimes, and she even hinted that I was whore once.

I went into foster care with my two sisters when I was 10, and I was so much happier there. I was there because my mom was a lazy whore who was on drugs, and the same with my father. Can I get away from her, legally?

anon118275
Post 28

I'm 19 and wanting to divorce my mother. From the age of 4 she was very abusive to me and my younger brother. Not only physically but mentally and emotionally. We both got put into foster care when I was six and when my brother was four years old. We went back home when I was 11.

She had another three kids and after a few months got put into foster care again, but not only me and my brother, all five of us got put into care. She then got put into prison for child abuse. My mother's not allowed to see my siblings as they are now all in permanent placement.

My mum also used to beat up my dad all the time and turned him to drink. They are now divorced and haven't seen each other in years. He's not drinking anymore though. I don't want to divorce my dad because he's done so much for me in the past years but I would like to divorce my mother.

anon114530
Post 27

First: If you are being abused, get help right away!

Keep in mind with a decision such as emancipation/divorcing your parents, you are not only cutting ties with them, but you are also stating that you can support yourself and lead an adult life.

If you are mad that you had a phone taken away or that you cannot date, you are not ready to leave home. Parents may say and do some weird things but in the end they are trying their best to raise a responsible adult. (This is excluding those who apply to my first statement.)

In order to live an adult life, you need to be able to make about $1500 a month at least. Rent, electric, water, sewer, trash, gas, transportation, insurance, medical, phones, cable, etc. These things are not cheap. If you are still in school, and hopefully you have the sense to stay with it, can you maintain a full time job, with school to pay all of your bills?

It may sound easy because most parents do not let their children know the stress of it all, to protect them, but in reality, adult life is no fun. You need to go to school including college.

This economy has hit hard and most employers want a degree of some sort. Stop and think about why you want the divorce from your parents and what all it really entails. Most places will not rent to a minor, regardless of emancipation, because of the financial liabilities.

If you really believe that it is in your best interests, there are child advocates that may be able to help you. Do not take this lightly, do not do this because you are grounded, or argued over a boy/girl, or because you cannot go to a party. Think realistically!

Are your parents trying their best, are they neglectful, etc.?

Again, if there is abuse, get help now!

I know where you are coming from. I wanted to get out at an early age, too. I left my mom's house, went to my dad's, ran away from home, and ended up homeless. I got pregnant as a teen, dropped out of school because I had to work. My parents weren't willing to give me a free ride anymore. I had blown it.

Now I am in my 30s, have four children, no college and no career. I work to pay my bills and feed my children. I take away privileges, such as cells, tvs, parties, etc. when they do not deserve it. So again, I have been where you are, I have done the things you think, I have been abused (not by parents), I have been homeless, I have been a pregnant teen.

I have thought the unthinkable thoughts. I have been there, done that.

Take care in your decisions, think long and hard. Do not jump into something until you really do some soul searching and be realistic on why you want the divorce. Hopefully this helps some of you out there.

sara12345
Post 26

I'm 14, almost 15. I want to divorce my parents because i have witnesses who agree that I'm being neglected by my parents. I would like to for my own good but i have no money and can't start getting money until I'm 16 so can i still divorce my parents?

anon101653
Post 25

I'm 15 and want to divorce my parents. they don't love me and i don't get along with them. i want to move in with my friend who's been taking care of me since i was 13. help answer my question soon please, and besides I'm almost 16. Can't i divorce my parents?

anon89350
Post 23

I'm thinking about divorcing my mother. It's not because she's an abusive parent but more mentally. She doesn't trust me and she makes me feel like I'm worthless! Why would i want to live with someone like that? I hate her. I feel as if I'm the mistake she made in high school that she could never get rid of. What should i do? I can't continue to live like this. I'd rather live with my senile grandmother.

anon85927
Post 22

I'm 16 turning 17 soon. And I've been thinking since I was 14 to divorce my parents. My father is an alcoholic, but he has gotten better, I give him that. But he still comes home wasted sometimes and when he does he fights with my mom and he beats me up.

And as for my mother, She is hard nf me. I come from an asian family and I am a first generation american child born. So my mom is very new to our new generation. She hits me when she sees me talking to guys. She doesn't let me go to parties. I pretty much have no social life.

I'm also not allowed to date. I sneak out to parties and I date people behind her back. I'm an athlete as well. So she is very serious. Whenever I don't get first she yells at me and tells me that I stink. She always brings my self confidence down. And she says its my fault. I can't stand her sometimes.

A few years ago my mom had surgery. I hoped that she would die so I wouldn't have to live with her. I realize that if my mom were dead I wouldn't mind at all. I don't know if this makes me a bad person. But I know somewhere I love her. But I don't.

my mother told me when I was 10 that she was suppose to abort me. Every time we fight I always think "if she aborted me we wouldn't be having this fight right now." and because what I do is very expensive I always think, "if I weren't doing this, my family could be rich and happy."

I tell my friends, because my brothers and sisters don't understand, and they say that I blame other people's mistakes on me. But I don't. I cause so much pain in my family. I don't want to live my life in regret.

I want to get away from my parents and my brothers and sisters. We don't get along. At least I don't get along with them. They call me a spoiled brat. And all I do is waste time and money. And they have suffered so much because of me.

I hated my life so much that I've tried to commit suicide. my first attempt was when I was 8! You might not believe me, but you don't know what I go through. And this summer I am having surgery and I'm prying for the worst to happen. I'm tired of living a total lie.

I'm never myself at home, and it's not my fault. It's because I know my family won't accept me. And even though they say they love me I know they don't. Someone please help me before it's too late. I know this may not sound bad. But I just don't know how to explain what I'm going through.

anon84404
Post 21

I am 16 years old, and my parents are divorced. My dad lives over 100 miles away, and therefore I have to stay over there for 42 days in the summer. However, I have a lot of required activities here where I live for band and my dad is not allowing me to go. Not only that, but both my sister and I face being neglected by our father. Is there anyway I/we can divorce my/our dad?

anon84288
Post 20

I'm 17 and my mom is always trying to run my life. i mess up like all teenagers do and she just thinks so low of me she has taken my phone and i really have no social life and i never have fun.

i do have a job, money in my savings and lots of money in my checking and i can live on my own. Please help me divorce my parents!

MellyMelanie
Post 19

I have no money, I'm only 15 years old, and never worked in my life, and right now, i need help.

My mom has been dating this guy since i was little, and we've always bumped heads. They punish me from leaving the house, and from internet. I'm not even allowed to speak to family members.

My dad and my mom are constantly fighting, and each time I've called the police and my sisters and i had to run next door to the neighbors house. He has threatened me many times, and has called me names. He's pulled me by my hair and lifted me by the collar of my shirt. I feel unsafe and i want to leave.

Now, they plan on moving us to a different state. my entire family lives in a different state already and i feel like i have no time, and that i should leave now. What do i do, and how do i start? My only solution right now is run away, but I'm afraid it won't make anything any easier on me.

anon82606
Post 18

I don't get along with my mum at all. i am 16 years of age. The relationship between my mother and me has fallen down hill since i was the age of twelve when she used to beat me to the pulp. Now I'm 16 and we're constantly knocking heads, She is always kicking me out and then making me come back and it's stressing me out emotionally and making me exhausted.

I'm becoming too tired to study and hostile in her presence. Now I'm currently with other family but i really can't live with her anymore. Help?

anon76253
Post 17

My parents have been divorced since i can remember my mam left me and my dad. i still visit her but i will never forgive her for doing that. my dad's always at work so i never see him much. I'm mostly living with my grandparents. i don't know what to do.

anon74143
Post 16

I am 16 years old and i want to divorce my parents. I have been living with my mom because my mom and dad are divorced. My mom and dad were together about nine years. During their relationship my dad abused my mom.

When they finally got divorced i lived with my dad a fraction of the time and where we lived was terrible and everything was nasty. The living environment just wasn't healthy.

Now I've lived with my mom since i moved from there and it's always something with her. I am 16 and have five sisters and i am more of a mom to them than she is. I clean the house all the time. Cook dinner almost every night. I take on all the responsibilities a mother should. Without me she would have to do it, no choice.

I have had to grow up so fast because of this and i have no life at all. All of my friends see it and they try to help but there isn't much that they can do. I've made mistakes but what teenager doesn't. Especially nowadays! nothing too drastic -- it could be a lot worse -- but I've learned from the mistakes I've made.

My mom doesn't understand that. She has no trust in me and i don't know what to do. I seriously can't live with her anymore. i would be a lot better off with out her. I plan on getting a job and making money and moving out asap but unfortunately i can't till age 18 by law.

I heard you can get a divorce from your parents from a friend who is trying to help me and will do anything to help me. I will meet any requirements needed if possible and i will make it on my own. i have family and friends for support. i just need help and need every bit of info i can get on this so i can get out.

anon73434
Post 15

Well, it happened to me yesterday. My oldest daughter has had enough of me. Any contact with her, her kids, husband. Pain in my heart etc. I will have to live with it and cope the best I can for the rest of my life.

anon70813
Post 14

my name is brandy and i was wondering if you have to be a certain age and what is the age? precisely? i am 14 but almost 15 and i have heard from lots and lots of people that you can pick out who you want to live with when you're 13 and i want to divorce my dad. he is an alcoholic and is really mean and i just don't like living there anymore.

anon68969
Post 13

I'm a single parent of 17 years. is there a way that I can divorce my children? They are 17, 14, and 9 years of age.

anon68372
Post 12

Sometimes it is easier to live with your parents even if they are emotionally or physically abusive.

When you are 14 years old, like I am, and have no job, how will you provide for yourself if no one is there? What do you do?

anon58179
Post 11

I'm 15 and want to divorce my father. I have evidence of neglect on his part and that it is in my best interest. How do I go about doing this? Thanks.

anon56148
Post 10

i am 16 and i really want to divorce my parents. i am adopted and want to get out of the house. my grades aren't good and i try, but the people i live with don't understand.. my dad has put his hands on me and almost choked me and i want to leave. please help.

anon53636
Post 9

im 16 and want to divorce my mother. is that allowed? and how do you go about it?

anon47281
Post 8

Is it possible to divorce your parents in the UAE?

anon44608
Post 7

I am an adult. My father and stepmother (great folks) are deceased. I want to divorce my emotionally abusive mother. Is that possible? I wish I had asked my stepmother to adopt me while she was living. I am sure she would have, as she was my mother for all practical purposes. She died unexpectedly from cancer. Could I still ask for adoption from a deceased stepmother? I guess I am just desperate to sever all ties. Thank you.

anon42986
Post 6

with no money, you can still go about emancipation. you have forms in my state, at least that you fill out to try and have the fees waived.

anon37685
Post 5

Can a parent divorce their adult child in CA?

najafa48126
Post 4

im 14 and i would like to get a divorce from my parents...is that possible.?

keving2009
Post 3

How do you go about divorcing your parents?

moonflower
Post 2

Can I divorce my grandparents that are mean cause I'm only 12 years old and I want to live with my mom again?

I have to use my moms messanger for an answer so my grandmother doesn't know.

thanks sincerely shianne

anon28331
Post 1

What are the first steps to emancipation without having any money??

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