How Do I Handle Inappropriate Conduct By a Child's Teacher?

My 8 year old son has been picked up by his arm twice by his teacher and also dragged by his arm by the same teacher. The teacher taunts him and constantly picks on him. I have taken this through the proper school channels and they are saying it is my son's behaviour and advise the borough council he needs a social worker.

There are witnesses, but I will not give the children's names and put them at risk. I have emailed my local MP, the Secretary of state for Education, Ofsted and the Mayor of London, to see if they can call for an external investigation, but the school will only have an internal investigation, so in other words, let's sweep it under the carpet and forget about it. It's not possible it's my son. If anyone has any advice, please tell me.

A teacher allowed a group of students, 14/15 year olds to watch an unplanned, 18-year-old movie that at home, my child would certainly not watch or ask to watch.

The teacher had not previously watched or vetted the movie or even read the content and allowed someone to stream a movie online and she watched it with them and only at the end of class did she make some remark on its inappropriate content.

To me, sordid, sexually explicit movies are not on the curriculum and I feel she has dishonoured my role as a mother and what in general mothers would not allow. What can I do? Another teacher in the same school is reported to be cool and sometimes off his head on weed and allows students to watch clips which contain sordid sexual images. Help. I need to act.

I'm in junior high, eighth grade.

My teacher doesn't know how to teach, yells at us as if she were our parents and threatens us with summer school.

Last year she told our class, "I will kill you all right now," because we didn't understand a problem. She dresses inappropriately and wears clothes where we can see her thighs, thongs and bra straps. Please help. She's scaring us.

I have a little boy in second grade in special education. He has come home numerous times telling me that his teacher screams and yells all day. Now it has come to the point where he's saying, "I hate school. I hate my teacher. I don't want to go anymore." I called the principal and reported this and have called a meeting with the teacher and her on Tuesday.

Today my son came home and said the teacher told me to tell she's yelling with a big grin on her face. I have tried to deal with this in the past and the principal blows it off saying that it's just her personality and she deals with "tough kids." Should I take this to a higher level? --karen

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My son told his counselor in school that his father was incarcerated, and the counselor told the principal. Is there a student confidentiality law in place?

I have a problem with my teacher. My teacher is just really mean. She threw a piece of paper in my face for not answering her question and she gave me a detention. Can anyone help me? Every time we have her for a subject I feel like I'm going to collapse when she talks. Please help me.

My second grader came home today upset. He told me when he turned in his math test, his teacher threw it on the floor and told him to show his work. I asked are you certain she threw it on the floor? Maybe she handed it back to you and you missed it and it fell on the floor, and he then demonstrated how she threw it. What do I do?

My daughter's art teacher told her they were studying the history of Australia as an art theme. My daughter said that would be boring so the teacher told her to go back to her own country if she didn't like it. I am furious. What can I do?

My friend and I are freshmen in high school and found a teacher's flash drive with "personal pictures" on them. What should we do?

What do you do when your child's second grade teacher asks the class who wants to give her a massage? some of the students do this. you contact the school and after an investigation the school board says they cannot fire her because she did nothing that was against the law. now she is going back into her class.

we parents feel she needs to be out of that school. she is a danger to our children and this is not the first time she did this. as parents, what can we do to get her out of our school? can someone please help?

I was forced to quit my job as a teacher because of inappropriate remarks I made to a group of senior boys regarding female anatomy and sexuality. These remarks were made as part of a discussion of a news story about a 17 year old who had forced himself on a drunken 14 year old and was facing rape charges. I decided to have this discussion with no girls present to give them a no-nonsense, clear idea of what could be considered sexual assault. At the end of the discussion they asked me what girls liked sexually. I told them they needed to be stimulated by foreplay manually or orally but that was up to them.

I was way over the line at the end of the discussion. Why did I end up there? Because the boys were sexually active and completely ignorant. Some had committed sexual assault inadvertently. Others were sleeping with their girlfriends and not understanding what to do. At the end of the period they applauded because someone told them something that delineated the boundaries and gave them a practical sense of their obligations to their partners.

Regarding the issues above. I taught the hardest cases: learning disability, Asperger's, ADD, anger management and depression. I also had the class Valedictorian and half the honor roll in my TV program. I treated everyone with respect but I especially treated kids who needed discipline with respect. I created ways to help kids be part of the structure in class without being shamed. I gave value and honor to accomplishments. I let someone who had done less than there best try again and do better. Some kids were tough enough that not much would get through but there so few I can count them on one hand. All a student wants is meaningful knowledge and a sense of belonging.

Teachers, in general, try their best to manage what they can but when something is beyond their tolerance, either for that day or year, they will attack the problem or ignore it. I have heard teachers in the teachers lounge running down student after student detailing how stupid they are, how they'll never go to college, end up in prison, work at McDonalds etc. If they talked about any of my students that way I'd stop them and tell that the kid was doing great in my class and I was surprised at their remarks. Teachers would talk about girls' breasts and boys' hunkiness. There were teachers who sat with their classes and talking about all the men they picked up over the weekend. There were male teachers who had pictures of female students with their arms wrapped around them on their desks in class.

When it came to teaching there are 20 percent of the teachers who we are great, 20 percent who are useless, and 60 percent who are mediocre and abusive. When it comes to students, about 20 percent don't really need a good teacher because they are smart and self motivated, about 20 percent don't need to be in a college bound school or are complete discipline problems, and about 60 percent of students need real teachers working with them to bring out the strengths they have. In the end the 20 percent of the great teachers cannot teach all of the 60 percent middle learners and that is why education is at a standstill.

No amount of money or training will move the middle up. Only a committed teacher and a willing student are required. Willingness can be taught.

You should report this to the FBI ASAP.

My concern is well overdue for a written complaint, it begins as follows: During my high school years (2002-06) I planned on attending a running start program through a community college. This goal was well established in as early as my middle school years, however was heavily discouraged by nearly every teacher in both the middle and high school (small school less than 500 students in both the middle and high school). Now that I am 21 I understand the school district suffered a funding loss upon my departure from the school to attend a higher education, however, prior to engaging in the program I was verbally discouraged to attend the running start program because (and I quote) "wouldn't be accepted to any colleges after high school, and you won't learn anything there because...etc." Obviously this was a complete falsification. However, at the time I felt disinterested in my overall goal, but I decided to attend the program regardless of teachers attitudes causing me to be subject to further discrimination...teachers grading my papers exuberantly harder than other students, specifically the teachers that had issues with my interest in the running start program. I reported these issues with my school academic counselor and confided in my middle school teacher whom had a hand in my earlier education. Both of these witnesses agreed that I was being treated differently, and negatively. At the time those brief cries for help were about all that I made and they did not go much further than that, however now that I am older and lack much of the fear once instilled in my younger youth I truly want to make a difference.

I don't know if it is too late to do much of anything, or if I could still report this to someone and influence the school (and their students) positively, but if there is any chance I am willing; I just do not know where or how to start.

As a side note, I’d like to mention the overall demographic of the surrounding area: low income, heavy drug use, high teen pregnancy rates, just another traditional uneducated and uninformed ultra-conservative small town. Most of the parents I’ve encountered in the area seem to care less about their children as a whole, let alone their education and I just don't see any possible improvement with out someone taking action. I am deeply concerned for the students in that school losing potential each and everyday...much like myself, there really is not anyone there to speak up for them and I imagine most are afraid to speak up for themselves concerning issues far more complicated than running start.

I feel like if one difference could be made, i.e. someone addressing and taking action towards solving an issue...perhaps other injustices within the same school might come to an end.

My daughter who is a senior at a high school has had trouble w/ teachers all year from not teaching her correctly (she has a learning disability) after we got that taken care of- now we have had situations were teachers are making comments at her as "ms queen bee"-"yeah we know you're always right" -have had conversations w/ other teachers about her in the class room (while she was in the class) & then turn & look at her and laugh - pulling her out of a class into the hall when there was a situation btw the teacher & her (and both -not just my daughter but, the teacher too) screaming at each other very-very loudly i have statements for other students stating that the teacher was shouting at bre as much if not more comment in the regards as "i'm tired of having 2 deal w/ you mouthy 18 year olds" -just recently one of the teachers decided 2 log onto my daughters my space after reading it 1 teacher (known by name) a high school secretary (also know by name) decided 2 have a good laugh about her & throw comments like "she can't even spell-she doesn't know anything about love or she shouldn't be graduating and many more and as other teachers walked into the office they included them in on the conversation (we have witness statements from other students that heard the little conversation that the school staff decided 2 carry out about my daughter i have talked 2 the principle and even when 2 the superintendent (the super i caught in 2 lies & the principle is new & usually turns 2 the teachers 4 advise i know my daughter is not "perfect" and is a every day teenager as well as having a very strong opinion on things -but, i feel that their taking the authority issue 2 far how can you teach a student 2 respect others if those others have no respect towards you. You can't do that but, i can does not set well in my standards

we are tired of the b.S. And i fell that this will continue when it should not be allowed -students have handbooks to follow

-what about teachers? Can you help us or direct us 2 someone who can

teresa & breann beck

I have a problem, I have a received an e-mail where a married male school teacher has been soliciting young women for pornography.

He teaches special ed kids and even posted that on his site. I don't think he should be teaching kids period. please advise.