@cougars- I would disagree that a hollow point is safer for home defense and family. Hollow points can potentially open you up to criminal and civil liability because the intent of the round is to kill not disable. They are much more deadly when they do hit someone, and family members are not always behind a wall when a home intruder has broken in.
A much safer home defense method is to buy a shotgun and load your first round with less-lethal rubber rounds. They come in slugs, beanbags, and hornet's nest pellets. In a court of law, the fact that you shot first with a less lethal round means you were strictly trying to defend your family from a potentially deadly threat.
If you do not have a shot, gun, you can purchase rubber bullets in larger caliber pistol rounds (like .45 ACP). For smaller caliber bullets, you can find other less lethal rounds. Just be sure to never pull a gun unless you are in fear for your life and you plan to use it. Do not let rubber bullets make you more likely to draw your weapon.